A week or so ago, I left my wallet in my car when running into a Starbucks and the barista said not to worry about it and gave me my iced tea for free. And although I was grateful, I couldn’t stop thinking: What’s the catch?
Somewhere along the way we learn that if something sounds too good to be true, it usually is.
Like that craigslist dream house that is 4 bedroom / 3 bathroom and dog-friendly for only $500 a month.
Or those photoshopped models you see in magazines.
Or all the movies with an all-star cast that actually just really suck.
Or basically anything on you see on the internet or watch on infomercials.
It’s all just misleading advertising claims. And as a result, people have become more wary of falling victim to these well-known scams.
But we project this idea onto people, too. And in this case, it’s not as easy as seeing an unrealistic price tag or a flawless six pack to make us suspicious of the intentions of others.
It’s as if we are hardwired to find the faults in people before we can see anything good in them.
There is just something in our minds that forces us to find (or imagine) red flags where there are none. It’s a cruel trick. Sometimes we just can’t accept that a new friend or boyfriend is exactly what we’ve been looking for. Exactly what we need.
We are programmed to push them away before they even have a chance to get to know us (or us them) because we can’t accept the fact that maybe they are that good.
So when you find someone who you may think is ‘too good to be true’ – give them the benefit of the doubt for once. Maybe they’ll surprise you like that miracle pasta maker you bought from an infomercial at 3am.
Or maybe they won’t. But you’ll never know if you don’t stop looking for ‘the catch’ in a relationship that is all good and no bad.
And maybe this makes sense or maybe it doesn’t. Since I took Nyquil about 15 minutes before writing this.