As published on Thought Catalog on May 20, 2014.
I am getting really tired about hearing how girls are so high maintenance and how hard to please they are. I’m sure some are. Actually – I know some bitches be cray. But for the most part, it’s untrue. And I’m about to – as my cousin would say – express my discontent on this very issue.
If you ask me what I want to eat and I say, ‘I don’t care.’ It’s because I honestly don’t care. If I had an opinion on the topic – I would tell you. Believe me. And although the answer is usually Chipotle – I am not a picky eater. I can find something I like anywhere. Just don’t ask me to eat olives.
Sure there are some days where I can’t find anything to wear and take an hour and a half to get ready but most days – I get my shit together, grab a cup of coffee and am out the door within a half hour of my alarm going off (after I snooze it 4 times… max).
If you don’t know how I feel about something or someone – ask me. I’m not going to lie, bullshit or allude to anything other than the truth. I don’t want to play games as much as the next person. I don’t have that kind of time when I’m busy catching up on season 3 of Girls.
I don’t need and I really don’t want anyone to buy me expensive things – especially jewelry. I have told ex-boyfriends this numerous times. I lose things – even expensive things. I guess jewelry is the go-to gift for girlfriends. Sure. Ok. Unless you know the person you are dating. Once I got the most beautiful sunflower necklace from a boyfriend that I did absolutely love and would wear all the time. But where is it now? I honestly have no idea.
I don’t want someone who is going to be around all the time and always wants to be with me. That is not necessary nor is it encouraged. I love to be by myself. I like to have my own space and time. So go find your own hobbies, friends, and interests. I’ll just stay here and do what I do, thankyouverymuch.
Most girls don’t require an incredible amount of effort. They don’t want to tell you what to do, who to hang out with or how to act in certain situations. They don’t want you to put them on a pedestal or share everything you own and then some.
They want someone who is going to be constant and true to themselves. They want someone who is understanding, thoughtful and caring. Someone who believes in them and gives them something to believe in.
And this doesn’t apply strictly to the dating world, but in friendships too.
Is it high maintenance to ask you to text me back in a timely manner? To ask me if I want Starbucks since you’re stopping there on your way to pick me up? To ask how my day went? To care at all about anything?
All I ask is that you teach me things I don’t know about, show me new places, give me a book you loved, enjoy the time that we spend together. I might be selfish, messy and indecisive – but I don’t think that I’m asking for a lot here.
Just feed me and love me,